The February issue of The Believer had Sheila Heti interviewing Mary Gaitskill.
This is not the best part, but it might be the funniest:
SH: Would you be able to explain what your basic attitude is toward people that you meet? Like if you go into a room or go to a party, is there a basic disposition you have toward humans going through the world?
MG: [Slightly defensive] Could you answer that question?
Read the interview-the conversation is interesting and it goes everywhere. At one point, Gaitskill discusses gender and marriage dynamics and admits to wanting a “wife,” as wives so often provide practical and necessary support for writers.
One thing I’m very envious of men for is when they get married—this is less true than it was, but I still think it’s true—their wife is going to help them. Look at Nabokov. He was a brilliant writer. He would have been a brilliant writer no matter what. But do you know how much his wife did for him? She did the shopping. They would drive to the store together—she would drive. She did all the dealings with the landlord, she shoveled the walk. She typed his manuscripts, she edited them. I don’t think most women would go that far, but women are far more willing to do the support work, which is really, really helpful. Virginia Woolf—I’m sure she would have been a great writer, regardless, but she had a lot of help, too. Leonard was a wife. That’s invaluable. Women do not have that very often.